Sunday, February 28, 2010

Marriage Relationships Advice - How a Couple can Maintain a Good Relationship after Marriage

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8pAiMUxa2Tc Watch this video from YouTube by chance. It describes differences among after "married 7 days", "married 7 months" and "married 7 years". Very funny but impressive video!


A romantic relationship is essential to most marriages. But only a small minority of couples can maintain a romantic relationship after marriage.


Let me give you some advices of how to maintain a romantic relationship after marriage all the time.


Advice 1: Focus on Commonalities


A romantic relationship needs husbands and wives to share emotions, experiences, and beliefs. While happily married coup 0les can rattle off their differences, they will also always make statements about the things they have in common. The more couples focus on these things they have in common, the deeper intimacy is allowed to grow.


Think about the times you have felt the most connected with your spouse. One of the best exercises anyone can do to make their marriage a more romantic relationship is to focus on what you do have, and not on what you wish were different. Remember, it’s not about trying to change your spouse, making him or her think, feel and behave more like you. Instead, try to understand these differences and not pass judgment.


Advice 2: Spend time together


Studies indicate that marital happiness is highly correlated with the amount of time spent together. This means getting to know each other better and spending time together. Plan together and you’ll find that the planning takes time and effort. These shared plans do so much good for a marriage because they acknowledge the importance of your union and give you a sense of future together. Busy couples should actually schedule time together, such as going on lunch dates or turning off the TV at night, to enjoy each other’s company. This way, you are intentionally connecting and showing each other attention and appreciation, factors that are crucial to a romantic relationship.


Advice 3: Give Compliments


Lovers shower compliments upon each other (even when not really necessary) and this actually helps in nurturing your romance. It is very natural for lovers to get busy with daily work, family and home post marriage. But in this hustle bustle, many a times both forget to compliment one another when she is wearing her hair differently or he is looking more handsome on a particular day. So take time out of your work and kids to notice his/her looks and give complements. Not just looks, you can also compliment your partner on his/her work, achievements, etc. This will surely work in re-injecting romance in your marriage.


Advice 4: Be Interested in His/Her Life


It is not really possible to like each and every habit of your spouse. For example, a wife may not really be interested when her partner spends the entire morning cleaning his car. On the other hand, a husband may not really appreciate the reality shows wives like watching on TV. But think again. They are not really that bad. Are they? Moreover if you genuinely sometimes take interest in things that interests your life partner, he or she will really appreciate your gesture and reciprocate.


Last advice: Surprises can be Fun


With the daily tensions, there is more need of romance in your life. Giving your partner little surprises goes a long way in elevating moods and lessening anxieties. Here I give some tips to you:


Tips 1: Unexpected kissing


When was the last time that you surprised your spouse with a kiss? Giving your partner a smooch when he isn't anticipating it will catch him off guard in a pleasant way.


Tips 2: A Surprised Gift


You can leave cute love messages (or a small gift @^.^@) for one another under the pillow. Watch this video for some gift ideas.


I think making a Sweet Video Slideshow with a Free PowerPoint to Video converter is also a good idea. Go and try it yourself!

If you practice these ideas, you will quickly see how you can light the fire of intimacy in your marriage and rekindle your romantic relationship.

Further reading:

PowerPoint to Movie – Total Guide to you